The Triangular Personality and Honesty

I grew up being both an unpopular geek till I turned 14 and moved to another school in another town to become one of the most popular guys and then again Mr. Unknown in yet another new place. I am independent but crave approval. I guess all of us do even if we don't admit it.

I have a working hypothesis that a persons consists of three aspects: what he or she thinks of himself or herself, what the other think of him or her and what he or she really is. If these aspects form a triangle at each angle I would add an arrow towards where we want to be from the point of what I think about myself, where others want to see us go from the point of what others think of me and last but most important is where our heart urges us to go from what we really are. The point is except for the last one the other two are prone to corruption. And if what we want, what society expects from us and the direction where our heart leads us to can be completely confused work against each other and cause disappointment and frustration. To try to smooth the differences by ignoring them or pretending they not exist is not OK. It may seem the easy solution but it leads to misery and hell.
If you look deep inside your soul and find that feeling that gives you peace of mind and confidence. If you are truthful to those around you about your plans and their expectations you may be up to a more rewarding and fulfilling life.
I believe that honesty (though often intuitively not the best approach) ultimately leads to alignment of our true goals and desires, our innermost dreams with our everyday work and mundane plans. And an inspired person tends to inspire the people around who are more likely to help.